food chains.
A friend of mine in college was quite fond of referring to the “love food chain” to explain certain things, and it went something like this (v. simple): You are always bound, if you are a romantic, to be in love or at least intrigued by someone who cannot or will not reciprocate (or has no idea to begin with). Conversely, someone out there in the world is also harboring feelings for you, and you don’t want to acknowledge them/are oblivious/cannot deal right now. This may not seem to be the case, but believe me, it is, for almost everyone. And until you find someone to meet you in the middle, you will be in this sandwich, and rarely be aware of both sides at once. The rare days that you do know about the two people are not good days: when you realize you are both lovelorn and unable to give love, all at once. My friend called that the “bermuda explosion” or the “really blustery days.” She was a kook but I love her.
My friend A. is having one of those moments. Hang in there. The sandwich is temporary.